As a reformed people pleaser, I told myself that this would be a self care year. In most situations, I naturally put others before myself. It’s just how I was built. Although this may sound like a wonderful quality, there have been times when this was not the case. When you don’t even consider yourself a high priority, emotional and mental exhaustion become the norm. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with helping my loved ones. However, I’ve been working on finding a balance.

With that said, here are a list of my self care goals for 2020. I am taking a different approach than usual, tackling small things at a time!

Dry shots: Mo and I have made a pact to reduce our alcohol intake completely this year. That means NO alcohol under any circumstances in 2020. For all you drinkers out there, you may be giving us the side eye, but it’s been long overdue. I can only speak for myself, but I can’t hang like before (I really never could to be transparent). One or two glasses of wine, and I’m literally on the floor. My tolerance is extremely low these days. So, I can keep that extra change in my pocket.

Hobbies, Hobbies, and More Hobbies: As I juggle this routine of adulthood, I find it even more difficult to find time for my hobbies than ever before. Once upon a time, I would exercise, draw, read books, and watch movies during my freetime. Now, the word free-time has become an ancient relic of the past. In 2020, I told myself that I am going to make time for all the things that make me whole. Like the old saying goes, people make time for what they want to make time for. I’m going to do just that!

Protecting My Energy: Now that I have mastered the art of self awareness, I have become very resilient against most energy vampires. My blood is no longer scented of vulnerability, anxiety, and poor boundaries. I have an arsenal full of optimism, self assurance, and accountability to protect me from danger. Energy vampires, be aware!

Strictly Business: Without a doubt, Business should always come first. In 2020, I plan on taking care of business for myself, and then others. How many times have I helped others, only to have less time for my own personal endeavors? Plenty of times. So, my relationship, work, and my businesses will come first in 2020. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Leaving the Baggage at the Airport: Let’s be honest, any and everyone has some type of baggage. We have all be hurt, abandoned, and discarded. However, that doesn’t mean you should pull a full luggage set everywhere you go. Could you imagine? You would be so exhausted every day, and that’s what happens when you carry around your issues all the time. With the help of a counselor, I have been working on leaving all my baggage behind for years. I know 2020 is my trigger free year. I constantly tell myself to feel in the moment, and keep the rest in the past.

What are some of your goals for the upcoming year. Share in the comments section below.

Thanks,

-Bryce Lennon